Desmond Frey: Four Key points to grow as a Mentor

Desmond Frey is the Lead International Pastor at Christliches Zentrum Burhegg in Zurich, Switzerland. He teaches, coaches and helps develop pastors and leaders in their ministry rolls and callings. Desmond is the overseer for several churches in Europe and also helps in missions with an emphasis of fighting against Human Trafficking, especially in Moldova. Desmond along with his wife Sandy host 2-4 "Refresh" marriage seminars each year around the world. 
Desmond and Sandy have been married for 34+ years and have four children (2 sons and 2 daughters) and 9 grandchildren.

In this episode I asked 4 key questions that you need to know to help you grow as leader, mentor or what to look for in a mentor. We will take a look at some misconceptions that you feel may keep you from stepping out to fulfill a calling or to even grow in your faith.

Question #1- What is the one thing that you wish you had known before you started in your ministry or mentoring others?
Response- Learning to say "NO" at times. You can oversaturate to the point that thoses that you are teaching are unable to retain the material.
Quote by Zig Ziglar- "The differencef between successful and unsuccessful people is the power to say "No"'.

Question #2- What is the biggest mistake you have made as a mentor, husband, father, leader or christian?
Response- To realize the patterns that happen in life. Those times of negative patterns to please people and cause a self sabotage in your life. Neglecting family to get praise from pastors and leaders; and feeding on the praise and accolades that feed into the flesh of pride. 

Question #3- What is the #1 tip that you can give to help other men as they mentor and disciple other men?
Response- You need to be careful and selective of who you mentor, or pour your life into. You need to have a healthy balance of helping in healing and growing a calling. Don't take it personal if the person you are help leaves after they feel that they have gotten they help they were seeking. Just as a sick patient goes to a doctor to get healing, some men may come to you for healing the trouble the are facing; while others are seeking to grow and develop a ministry or calling. 
You must also have the time to invest into those that you are mentoring. Invest in those that are ready and hungry to develop and grow their calling.

Question #4- Besides the Bible, what is your favorite tool ( material, techniques, study guides or books) that you recommend to train, mentor, strengthen, or disciple men?
Response- The Majoring in Men materials by Dr. Edwin Louis Cole
John Maxwell and his Equip courses
Casey Treat- Renewing the mind
Frank Demazio- The making of a Leader
Dr. Caroline Leaf- most of her books use the study of neuroscience and the habits that we deal with in crisis.
Finally your life experience of what you have faced and learned is a tool that you can use to teach others.

Resources-
John Maxwell- https://www.johnmaxwell.com/
Casey Treat- https://christianfaith.us/successfulliving/

The following resource material are listed is part of an affiliate links with Amazon that if you use and purchase from, I will receive a portion of the sale:

John Maxwell- Developing the Leader Within You 2.0- https://amzn.to/2HUJiSd
Casey Treat- Renewing The Mind 2.0- https://amzn.to/3nkm8VA
Frank Demazio- The Making of A Leader- https://amzn.to/2GzClp7
Dr. Caroline Leaf- https://amzn.to/30Cryl5   https://amzn.to/2F4m5fv

Majoring in Men curriculum material- https://cmn.men/collections/curriculum-sets